Developing personal resilience is a skill that is learned and developed over the years, through experiences and encounters, both negative and positive. Whether it is in or outside the workplace, it’s how we deal with and learn from challenges that matter. The better you are able to develop these skills, the easier it will be to protect your mental health and wellbeing; and will ultimately be better equipped to deal with life.
Dianne McPherson is the HR Manager at GB Training and a health and wellbeing advocate. She shares her top six tips on developing resilience:
- Authenticity and self-awareness – I think the powers of hindsight are a wonderful thing. As I’ve matured and gained experience thought the years, I’ve realised, you’re not going to be happy unless you’re completely 100% true to yourself. If you embrace who you are, while aiming to do the best you can fairly; and treating those along the way as you would like to be treated, well then you are doing the best you can. Remember, you are not going to please everyone all the time, some people may disagree with you, some people may not like you, but have the confidence of your convictions. People will always recognise and respond positively to authenticity.
- Embrace mistakes – non of us are perfect and we’ve all made mistakes, It is how we deal with the mistakes that’s important. It’s healthy to use the opportunity to reflect and think about how you would tackle the same issue or scenario again in the future, and then draw a line under it, let it go and move on. I can guarantee you, no one will be thinking about the mistake as much as you do, so for your own sanity, learn to use the situation as positive experience to learn from. After all – life is full of peaks and troughs, it is how we deal with situations that counts.
- Don’t second guess – assuming what someone else is thinking is a way in which we reinforce negative thoughts and low self-esteem. Most of the time, you are probably filling your head with assumptions based on past experiences, which have no bearing on the current scenario. When the thought pops into your head, think to yourself ‘STOP’ and consider how irrational it is most likely is to be.
- Be confident in your own ability. Many of us have experienced feeling out of our depth from time to time. This is mainly due to lack of confidence. Embrace your skills and knowledge and go for whatever it is you are aiming to achieve. You’ve got this!
- Asking for help –The 14-Century poet John Donne penned ‘No man is an island’ and that statement is as relevant today as it was when it was written seven centuries ago. Resilience is not about coping on your own, but rather recongnising when you can pull in support from others. This is a sign of strength, not weakness.
- A happy body is a happy mind – if we think of our body is a machine, which requires the right fuel and maintenance. If it is pushed too hard and not well looked after things will start to fall off. To enable us to perform as best we can, a combination of the right food, exercise and lifestyle is critical.
Resilience is a multifaceted skill which can be learned overtime, it takes practice and mindfulness to start to develop the right ways of responding and dealing with issues, which are best for your mind and body.